Chickpea's list of fifteen things she wants in a mate got me thinking. I've been with so many men who went about things the wrong way, but I never told them, "hey, look you're doing this wrong. Here is what I would really like," because I don't want to be demanding in a relationship, yet I expect the guy to know intuitively the right thing to do.
Which is complete bull shit on my part.
It's silly to have fairy tale ideals of what romance is supposed to be like and then turn around and fuck people so far below those ideals they're on subterrean levels, just to keep myself from being disappointed. Somewhere along the way I wandered off the path and convinced myself if I knew from the start the men I dated wouldn't live up to what I wanted, I'd have little to no expections of them and so things would be fine, but of course they never are.
So what do I want in a mate?
Encouragement.
Reassurance.
Laughter.
Phone calls.
Discussion.
A good writer.
An avid reader.
Attractive (without being classicly handsome).
Height isn't a requirement, but would be nice.
Phenomenal kisser.
Intelligent.
Complementary set of quirks.
Says please and thank you.
Keeps his promises.
Even tempered.
11:39 a.m. - 2007-02-23
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